A Good Listener

I was at office. There was no work to do so all of us were getting together and started to talk about our lives. Everybody was talking about what kind of life they have and what kind of things they are facing in there day to day life. There was all kind of people. Some were very keen listener that they are focusing on what the other person was trying to say and some were so impatience and in hurry to talk as they were interrupting others before they finished. I was silent and was trying to see what all going there. I started think about this matter deeply and found that the guys who were not only giving others to finish their talks but also listening them carefully are more aware of all things than those who had no interest in listening other. They definitely know about others as they listened them. They can understand things in far better way.









Then I got few things that I have read somewhere about a good listener. Actually a good listener always get a good relation every where he or she go. The reason is so simple. One listen other means he is giving time to them to explore themselves and also trying to emphasize the situations. He know the value of words, he know what is the intension of others when they are talking about something. Being a human being it is a great thing to realize the others situations and that is only possible if we try to hear people around us. Most of us believe to deliver our thoughts, talks to the world but one essential thing we always forget is that to accept what the other world trying to deliver. Suppose if all people behave in same way then what will the value be remain to explore our hearts or our minds.









There are so many significance of being a good listener. It gives a strong bonding between people around us. It gives a sharp knowledge of the next personality. It always helps us to know what kind of situation the other individual is facing and is it possible that sometime in near future we are going to face the same. Actually the matter is that there are a lot of advantages of being a good listener. It changes the way we think or we saw other actions. One good listener must alert his mind all the time to analysis the happening that someone going to tell. Actually we should always try to apply once the same thing in imaginations and then try to learn what is new that can help us to become a good person or to live a life happily. We should always keep one thing in our mind that everyone around here to teach us something special, something very new and something very important.









A good listener becomes a great personality one day as he almost tries to learn from every walk, from every talk. There are a lot of things that are just there to teach us the story of life. The need is to accept the good things from everywhere, from every new experience. People around us give their experience in so many ways. We may feel bore sometime or we may feel the irritation but if there is something to earn then it never came in easy way. We have to do some sacrifices for all things. Give and take is so essential part of everybody’s life. But if there is something that makes us feel so bad then we should avoid the same in front of others when we share our views.









Life is more than what you think. It is a greatest teacher of all the time. Why to go anywhere to learn something good for life if we can get the same from our own life. And be a good listener never means not to share what we have. Infect we are the greatest people of this planet and it’s our duty to help others too being a great one. Coordination with our social is so important because we know we are nothing without social. So time to change the way we think. Come Let us listen the world. Let’s learn something new. Let us teach them too…

Move With it Don't Try to Be Escaped

In our life we see so many usual and unusual, certain and uncertain all kind of things happen. It isn’t so easy to predict the upcoming moment, the next movement of time. We face all these kind of things in our daily life. And it is not in our hand to change the demand of the time. We have to walk with it and to do so we should learn how to react on new situations, how to act upon new situations. What most important thing that helps us to get involved into the scene is to let us take a step along with the demand of time. It depends on us how we going to take such step. One thing that I always keep in mind that “here in this planet everything happening with a good cause. There is always something very good hides in every happening, non-happening.” And the other quotation that says “Every dark is not so harmful and every sunshine is not so useful.”

    It does not mean that we should change our life goals with the change of time. Even we should have a crystal clear idea that what are our life goals. We do not need to change our targets with time but can change the way we are trying to go through to achieve the targets. Sometimes we face very uncomfortable situations like we are trying to escape from something that we may think is not good for us but instead of getting far we found it in our every foot step. What to do in such faces of life? How to react or act upon these situations? Should we accept it or try to abandon?

    There may be so many questions rise as cited above in mind that may make the problem more complicated. Let us take an example about this.

A person ‘X’ who faced the pain to fall in love and breakup, thinks that he should never fall in love again with anybody or he doesn’t need any such thing like ‘love’ in his life. He thinks that like last time he may be cheated by way of love. He decided not to repeat such story again in his life. He has so many friends and from all of them he share things or share time with ‘Y’ more comfortably. They spend few years in same way and suddenly X has to go away from Y for some time in a place from where he cannot get connected or contacted to Y. In those days he started to feel that there is something missing in his life and to know the reason he learns the situation and as a result he get this is all because of the absence of his friend Y. and let assume Y also started to feel in same way that is she feels so lonely because the absence of X.

    After sometime they get back into contact. And this time they started to talk in very different ways. They started to care each other and in between X feels he fallen in love with Y. but he doesn’t tell the same to Y. he thought it would be better if they will live as a close friend rather than as lovers. But very soon he proposed by his that same friend i.e. Y. Now X feels he has no option than accept her proposal as he also feels a strong love feeling for her. Now the situation that is just taken place is totally opposite from what he usually used to think. He tried to escape from love but he failed in doing so. Now should he regret for the situation or should he move with it?

    I think to live happily he should move with it if he have the true trust on his partner Y. if he think that may be Y will left him alone in future or  will not be loyal to him then he should choose further option. There may be something good in it which will start give some happy results near future. We have the problem signifies that we have the answer too. We just need to give some time to it and to solve complication.

    That was very normal situation that can be taken place in anybody’s life. Similarly there may be so many problems like this and some of them may be more serious, more panic and more effective. No matter how hard the time is. The only need is to understand the situations in right sense by giving some time to it. To avail the good in every bad one should be proactive and a positive thinker. Life is a long road that sometimes gives you a smooth ride and some time a bumpy one. If there is a bumpy one that it is sign of the smooth one is just ahead and if smooth one then it will give a better experience in all aspects. But if we are riding in the smooth road we also need to be preparing for the rainy days. we should always value our time as if once the time lost it'd be never found.  

Ups and Downs

Life is full of suspense and drama. So many new things are taking place every day. To know about life is as like as reading a very interesting book. So many ups and downs, nights and days happy and sadness all are very essential part of it. Even all are necessary to get a best feeling of each other. Without dark you will never realise the importance of light so it is very important to accept all the faces of life. As a keen follower of Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam I always try to follow his so true ways. In his book “MY JOURNEY” he mentioned somewhere “Without the failure we never feel the real taste of success” and    if we try to figure it out why he said so, we can understand the truth that hides behind these lines. We may do so many good things in our life but unless we never get the experience of the bad ones it will never possible to know that we actually did something good. Even we say something is good because we already have the taste of its opposite fact.

We can only categorise a thing if we know it’s both faces. So we must not feel down when we are not got what we expected or when we are failed. Failure has the power to teach other about how to reach near to the success. It is the way that tells us ‘do not follow me go through that way’. The only need is to learn what the failure wants to teach, what the darkness want to tell. And the perfect thing that created by the nature is 'every dark night ends with a beautiful morning'. Life’s only massage to us is “never try to give up against dark because the bright day starts just after it”      

The New

Sometimes we committed few big mistakes that have a huge effect. That affect our life completely but we do not find a single one to whom we can share the happening about such big mistakes. We may try but many times we get very unusual replies from the other side to which we share our all things. In such a case we need help from a true friend. A help that can reduce the burden that has been taking place in our heart, in our mind. But find such aspirin is not so easy.  

Even sometimes we need someone to show our regret against that mistake that shake our whole mind and heart. We start to feel something vacant around us when the response from other side is not so helpful. Our condition in such cases is like a boat that is moving into the deep ocean and then a part of it destroyed by something that allows the water to fill in the boat. In such case the boat need someone who can help to repair the boat immediately but if no one there to do it the boat sure lose itself into the deep water of the sea.

The mind that controls all the activities of our body behaves so roughly sometimes. There are so many things that helping us to learn and move ahead without any break. But our mind denies those right things and decides to go with a decision that may keep us from so far from our actual destination. Such condition comes so many times in our life and forces us to give up against it. What we should do in such cases? Our mind doesn’t know.

That is a part of life and we each have the ability to solve every kind of problem. The need is to try to calm our mind in such manner that it can think and decide instead of contradict and decide. I’m too trying to search the solution but don’t know when will I get the right solution that will once again enhance my power to think twice before doing anything before taking any decision. Every day I try to  learn something new from the life but every moment I realize I’m giving up against the things that I’m doing after learning ‘The New’.     

'A Change' in you

Life always plays a different game. Sometimes it gives you a pleasure full time in the dark and sometimes it forces to cry in the sunshine. There is no way to keep you away from messes because it’s all controlled by life. Life has no kind no mercy for anything, for anyone.

    Sometimes even you haven’t realized what you are doing and what result coming relating to it. That is the power of life. Actually life has so many faces you can’t admit that you can recognized all of them every time. It has so many masks on its face, every moment a different one. The way it changes its face you even cannot feel the same. Many times we feel that there is nothing changes and all the things are as same as it was before. The fact is that we try to judge the time as according to our old experience and we never keep in mind that the time is changing so quickly and what was right last days may be not right today similarly what was wrong yesterday may be right today. You cannot predict the times speed because it is as fast we cannot realize when it has been changes.

    Actually we are not in the position to feel what is going on. We take every day as it’s same as yesterday and in the process we never realize the changes that have been taking place every day. But after a period if we look back we started to feel that we had a long walk and things are completely changed. You may surprise with it because the amount of changes that took place within two periods is not so little and you even cannot felt once that things around you started to change. The fact beyond that we got habitual of things around us and the power to ‘forget past’ plays a unique role in all the process.  Forget Past is one of the greatest habits that a mankind has. Suppose if we do not have such power then what we are facing today or on what we are crying today will be also a part of tomorrow. In other words we may not overcome from our bad time or bad happening because those happening would be always on our mind.

    The fact of the matter is that we should always keep in mind that earth is moving and by doing so it is changing its position in every single second. And with the change of our earth everything is changing. Time changing, things changing, every kinds changing, our heart changing, our minds are changing every blood droop is changing its position as well. That much changes taking place in every second and our thinking is also not as distinct from other changes as it’s too changing with the time in a speed of time and sometimes faster than the speed of time. If you have to judge somebody you have to start from beginning every time you want to judge. Somebody who is walking upwards into stairs never always have same position, all the times we cannot assume or predict that he may be bottom of the stairs. A little flame of fire can be a deadly wave or a deadly wave of fire can be slow down gradually and turned into a flame that may about to finish in any moment.

    Everything is possible in this world. Good people may be a criminal one day and a criminal can be a good one. Someone who loves to do fun all the time may be serious tomorrow or a serious or shy guy may be a fun loving guy tomorrow. These are called the changes that our life always allows. Actually in many cases we do not want to change ourselves but the life makes changes and forces to accept all the same. But we cannot do anything instead to take every old thing or new thing or changes in a positive way. There is a quote that says “there is always something good in every happening.” I appreciate with the same. We have to accept every change that come as a hard challenge. There is always a good cause hides beyond every movement, beyond every happening. Sometime the good or bad has recognized so easily but sometimes it become so hard to find good in it. The success is depends upon the way we trying to find and the way we expected things. Once we find the good in all happenings we started to feel alright. In other words we can say a positive energy started to wave in the mind that allows us to accept the situation and challenges and makes us strong enough to face the result.

    The thing that should be keep in mind is that it is truth that time and life is like a wheel which are changing positions with every single movement and instead of crying on the time we should always try to find the positive energy that will wave into the atmosphere only if after we get success in findings ‘good’ in all the fortunate or unfortunate happenings. We have only this life to live. Who knows what will happen after the life? We should always ready to live it with the happiness and joy. No matter what the time need we should always try to keep a smile on our face as well as others. We are human we can control our interim activities specially feelings towards anything.

    The universal truth is that we can only feel good if we have happiness along with us. And it is not so tough to be happy. The only need is to control your mind, to control your heart. Mind is the source of all feelings so if we have proper control of it we can always flow a positive energy every time that will make us strong against all the changes, and after that it doesn’t matter that the changes that life brought to us whether good or not cause if they are good then nothing to do with it but if the changes has a bad nature then we have to find something good in it. The only way to live happily is to run with the time, run with the life, feel the changes that have been taking place around you, around your place and around the world.

      The other thing is that we are not satisfied with what we have. We know that the source of happiness is to be satisfied. The hunger to find new thing, the hunger to gain and the hunger to lead the world must be on every time but with this hunger we should have a satisfaction of the current. The hunger is so necessary in our life because it leads towards a new need and every new need asks about new sources and enhancing the sources means enhancing your power, so it is a very important tool of human life but beyond all this the balance between satisfaction and hunger is very essential to make the life full of happiness and joy.  The balance leads towards a happy life and it may change the way you think, the way you take things. It may change your living style and your way of dreaming. You will feel the passivity all the time weather it is a sun shine or a dark night.